How do i tell someone i have genital after sleeping with them?

Hi my name is mike...i reside in Hell...looking forward to 2012 the way my life is going...Lets start with the background..I"m a 26 yr old male, have had Hsv- 2 now for about 6 years or so...Contracted it in college during junior year, not to get all boohoo but it has been the most excruciating painful, sad and depressing last 6 years. In those 6 i have had 3 times...managed to go 3 years without , this was a period when would have to do. Developed a bad alcohol addiction to help, being miserable and having women throw themselves at you on campus was a terrible mix. I wouldn't wish this pain on no one. I managed to resist the women. Everyone around me was seeing me slipping away....wasen't the same guy, got drunk and into many fights. After accepting the fact that i wouldn't find anyone to love I just gave up. Recently a friend set me up with a girl who we supposedly were good friends in HS...27 yr old with a year and a half old lil girl. We hit back off...after finishing off a bottle of Goldschlauger liquor i told her i had never had unprotected ...she took that opportunity to be my first by just grabbin my worser half and forcing it through...as drunk as i was, i resisted for a bit but after it was to tough.I blame no one but me 100% my fault.i know i'm a horrible person, karma has been killin me these last 6, whats next. Myself and this women really have something going on here..its a long term relationship but she is already really badly into me, I plan to move over to her state in the next couple months(family reside and better job), i kinda beleive she just wants to find someone for her beautiful little girl.Father figure. I truly believe i would be that figure. We only had once, was not inflamed.We had for a few minutes unprotected, then a few minutes with protection which she had to stop because i was too ruff(sad) I just want to find someone and fall in love and get married. Its a shame that the only way to do this is through some internet site with others in my shoes. I have been refusing to do that as of today. A couple of my friends think i'm an idiot for wanting to tell her, they say to wait it out and don't worry bout it. My conscious and the guilt that i have has overwhelmed me, i even dream about telling women i have it. So what have i done in the mean time? I believe God has tested me and i have failed. I'm going to AA meetings to kick my alcohol problem, if i don't it probably will happen again. Please give me advice, really would like to hear from some ladies...I hate being who i am and must protect against being even worse. If i don't change something bad may happen.